Thanks for this inspiration.
I read, maybe In Mary Cathrine Baetson’s book Weaving a Life, how her mother, anthropologist Margaret Mead saved the mean-spirited critical letters she received in a special file. She read them when she need some hot-headed energy to deal with something else that was challenging. Turbo charged. Or was it Mary Catherine’s practice?

Anyhow, I do this too. And need to read these searing self-revealing projection letters addressed to me a lot more often.

Rebecca Traister’s book Good and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women’s Anger gives a good contemporary and historical lesson on why the heck we ain’t allowed to not be pretty, mad, or ugly either.